We all tend to get so busy with 'life' that we forget to be thankful for what we have. Do you agree with that statement? Think about it. When was the last time you thanked God for providing for you? When was the last time you thanked your spouse for being there for you when you needed them? When was the last time.... well, you can fill in the blank. Today is about being thankful - it's Thanksgiving! And soon the 'giving Sunday; the giving Tuesday' or whatever day it's going to be - will happen. People may depend on those days... but I doubt if any of us are 'thankful' for them. LOL Why did that come to mind? I had a couple for 'Giving Sunday' in my email this morning! And no, I don't necessarily 'give' on those days. (Don't tell me what to do!!). If I want to donate to a charity, I will do it regardless of what day it is. I suppose for some people it just needs to be a reminder. I have gotten selective over the years to whom I donate to. Sure, we wish we had money galore that we could donate to any and everyone needy - but unfortunately, that is not the case. We donate where we can, and what we can to whom we choose. And we are thankful that we are able to give to others in need. God has been good to us.
My mind seems to be all over the place this morning already. I got up at 4AM because I wanted to spend time in here without rushing, and I still need to leave 'early' so that I can get my large roasting pan out of the cabinet in the garage (should have done it last night - and didn't) and get it ready for the turkey - and get the turkey ready to be put into it. Then it's just waiting on that one! Once it is on, the rest is a 'piece of cake' to pull together. My son will be here between 9:30-10AM he said to start on his dessert. I didn't buy any other dessert - we can enjoy his! I made the deviled eggs yesterday so they just need to be put together and on a dish, which can be done later. I will peel potatoes once the turkey is on and get it ready to go on the stove. I probably should write down a list of what we are having; it seems I always forget something until we are eating - or afterwards! Looking forward to having this family over and being a part of their lives.
Hubby said something to me last night that I will admit - it hurt. It truly caught me off guard. I didn't argue with him, I just shut up. Yes, there were comebacks I wanted to throw back at him in my defense, but I did not. But his comment stung. As I share this, I am working through his comment; not to put him down, but I need to get it 'out there' to open my eyes to see what is true or not. After working out we went to Kneaders nearby; hubby insisted on driving last night to the gym (usually he has me drive) so I told him he had to choose. Good choice, although they didn't have my fudge brownies. We both got a salad and went to sit down. I don't even remember what was said by hubby, but it was something that hit me wrong, and I looked out the window and said "I don't want to be here; let's go home." He retorted that we had placed the order and we were staying - and here's the part that stung - "You are too controlling and someone told me recently that you are controlling, and I am not going to tell you who it was!" I was so caught off guard by that comment that I shut down. Devastated that someone would say that about me; that he would say that about me.
So I have pondered since that time, am I controlling? I've asked God to reveal to me the areas in which I do that. I know that in some areas I may seem 'controlling' because someone must make a decision and go with it - and that is usually me in some areas. In my mind I want to scream at him that if I am controlling, I would have told him to get off his lazy butt and get a job 17 years ago when he refused to work because he was 70. So here I am at 75 and he refuses to allow me to even entertain retirement! I want to remind him that if I was controlling that I would demand the checkbook back from him - the one I threw at him when he refused to work and told him to figure out how to pay the bills (and that is when I got my own checking account cause I couldn't trust him to pay my bills on time). But I'm the one who is controlling? Ok - I'm stopping on this subject... but it still stings and hurts what he said. He asked later last night if we could call a 'truce' - I'm not sure what that was to be a truce about; I just wasn't talking. If he asked a question, I responded. But I was depleted of any emotion. I went to bed at 7:30PM as I felt exhausted. But he had to turn the bed down for me first. (now who is controlling?) I know that at some point when he begins to give me his 'opinions' of how things should be, I will let loose with a 'now who is trying to be controlling' and start an argument about it. Sigh. My life in a nutshell. (erase erase) I'm trusting God, and allowing God, to have control over my tongue and attitude. I certainly can't do it by myself!
I went through a box of decorations yesterday afternoon and laid some on the kitchen table. I was asked "why are these on the table?" To which I responded "Because I haven't put them somewhere else yet." Of course I am the smart alec. Does it really matter? we were going out, not eating at the table. Yeah, I need to move those this morning as well. Did get the majority of the boxes taken to the garage. Yeah, the decorating and all is my job unless he wants to interfere (remember the putting up of the Christmas tree?) and 'help'. I recently told him he better hope I don't die first for he won't have a clue what to do about anything.
My daughter and family made it to New Mexico yesterday in good time. Grateful and thankful they arrived safely. Still am glad we opted not to make the trip (could that be what I'm controlling about? That I felt we shouldn't go sit in a car for 10 hours one way so that hubby won't be restricted due to the shunt in his leg? Is it MY controlling attitude that said no?) I still think it was a wise decision to stay home - and because we are, I get to spend the day with my oldest son and his family, which we haven't done in a long time. I think I'm a winner.
Colossians 3:15 (NKJV): And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which you also were called in one body, and be thankful.
Take some time this morning and think about what you are thankful for. You awoke this morning, right? Be thankful. You got a cup of coffee or water to drink. Be thankful. You have family or friends to see today. Be thankful. Your car starts. Be thankful. There will be plenty of food to eat - and leftovers! Be thankful. There are so many things that we can be thankful for. But the most important to be thankful for is that God loves us so much that He gave His one and only Son to be our sacrifice, that Jesus would take all the sins in our lives and nail them to the cross. And even better, they remember them no more. No matter if we ask forgiveness, and they come back to our minds, God has forgiven and remembers them no more - as far as the east is from the west.
Thankful to the One who rescued me from my pits of despair and continuously draws me to Him. I will be forever grateful and thankful to God, my Father, to Jesus, my Brother, and to the Holy Spirit, my Comforter.
Peace to you; may your blessings overflow today.