Had two meetings this morning - yes, part of the job - but wow. Wish the "leaders" which were not the leaders but those designated, knew how to conduct a meeting. I mean, good grief, how hard is it to follow the agenda? I have to go through the minutes from the previous meeting and create the agenda. They didn't have anything new to add for "new business" - it was all "old business" - and can they follow the guideline on getting people to talk about it? Geez! At both meetings, two different "leaders" and I use the word loosely - just sat there and looked around until someone said - uh, should we review the minutes? (like, yeah) and then it was, 'shall we continue on to the next item'? Gads - worse set of leadership I've seen for awhile. One is a VP and the other is a manager! Scares the heck out of me! Now I have to figure out how to create the minutes when things are so mixed up. Lucky me.
But my meetings are done for today. I have a 7AM meeting in the morning, which means I probably will not be creating a blog - and yet, here I am at 1PM writing this. Well, I CAN take a lunch once in awhile! Actually I am procrastinating because I do not want to start on the minutes yet. I got asked about ten minutes ago to order bagels and orange juice for the 7AM meeting tomorrow morning. Don't know who will deliver at 7AM - I'm the only one here that early! Will have to check with the girls who actually place the order. May have to give my cell phone for when the food actually arrives. It may surprise me though and be here by 7AM. Will see. This is another meeting - a Director no less - who doesn't know how to lead the meeting. Last month I just shook my head as she let the trainer railroad her and the trainer actually created some harrassment to the other employees and sorta "threatened" them - laughing about it - and of course the director who is her friend, laughed with her. It wasn't funny and no one else laughed. One person called me later to share that they were offended with the remarks of this person. I took the incident to our VP, but I don't know if she did anything about it. It disturbs me, for it needs to be corrected, but once I reported it, and even shared where the tape (yes, I tape the meeting and the comments ARE on the tape)I can not do anything else about it. I want to believe it was handled. Will see how this meeting goes.
Then I have two more meetings on Thursday - but only one of those I need to attend. One is a training meeting and I will attend for the lunch provided, but I will not stay in the meeting. I will go set up, and I will go clean up. But other than that - nope, not going to hang out there.
I don't mind the meetings when they are interesting and provide information. It's when people show up who haven't done their homework and try to bluff their way through their report I find it so annoying. It's like, 'don't you know your job'? - duh! Grumble! I guess it is like that in a lot of meetings. I'm just amazed at the laziness of some of the people we have in charge. You don't hem and haw about what you are talking about. Either you know it or you don't. Spit it out.
I guess it can also apply to life. How many of us hem and haw our lives away - never really living? We don't get involved because we just don't want to be held accountable. Or we don't want to have the blame or responsibility put on us if we fail. But you have already failed if you didn't bother to try!
What happened to the generation of standing tall and taking responsibility for our families, for our children, for their responsibilities? It has become far to easy to put off doing things that we should step up and take responsiblity for! We allow our behavior of not accepting responsibility overrule the law of responsiblity. We find other things to keep us busy so that we can't move on our responsiblities. We let others take care of us. We let others own the responsibility - until they enroach on our space because we gave them that responsibility - then we explode how dare they tell us what to do! Well, it seems if we don't step up and do what we are supposed to do as adults, and allow others to take over the responsibility we are to do, then we need to expect them to feel they can also tell us what to do.
Not that anything in that last paragraph makes any sense whatsoever.
I'm thinking of people who run to other people constantly to take care of them - and get taken care of - and yet, when they need to step up and be responsible, they don't know how to or just don't want to - and yet, won't listen to the one who has been taking care of them! Then everyone loses because one side doesn't accept the responsibility and the other side who wants to relinquish it can't shut up and won't force the other to grow up. ohhhh been through this before and have listened to it many times..... and now I'm just rambling.
Some people are just enablers. I blame my mother for part of it. The rest of it is a learned trait. And no, I'm not necessarily talking about me - although I have been an enabler at times, I will confess. It is so much easier to help someone get on their feet than it is to let them fall flat on their face and learn to walk again. I have fallen so many times on my face I have a permanent flat nose and a graveled complexion. Sigh.
Wow - how did I ever get on this topic! I guess I will hush on it. I'm rambling as thoughts run through my mind. LOL The vision that just passed through my mind was the scene from the Sixth Sense - where the kid says "I see dead people". Only I had seen a photo of the same scene with the comment, "I see dumb people". That was what I saw. Anyway.....
Maybe I need to see if I can complete a set of these minutes and get them off my list. None down, 3 to go this week thus far. Guess I oughta get busy.
With all this said - I encourage you stand tall and take responsibility. Get your education. Get that job. Find that hobby. Assert yourself. Learn something new. Teach a class. Read that book. Quit making excuses and start doing something! Dang! I hate it when I preach to the choir! Think I will bake cookies when I get off work. Finishing up the last tub of cookies I have. Hubby's men's group will eat the majority tonight. I need to get these out of my house. Maybe I will learn a new recipe. Naw, need to make some cranberry pumpkin nut bread and get in the freezer - I'm down to one loaf! But for now, I need to quit proscrastinating and get my minutes done. I'm outta here! Just for the record - I am NOT pointing fingers at anyone but me. If you feel guilty - then it's all about you!
Blessings!
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